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 in response to ekikaseven...   Of course Friday is pay day. So every week from the last pay-day, he almost always guess-timates that his check isn’t going to pay the bills. Years ago, he said that the three of us could to make it on $100 dollars. Back then, I knew he was a fool, but no, not these days. Our landlord sent a letter and he wrote one in response telling them we would catch up HOWEVER (as angry as I was, this was totally laughable) he responded and told them how much was going to be paid and what was going to be done the following week. He made it sound like “O.k. we’ll pay you and you’d better get ready to do some work on the house ASAP!” One, to that I say, “WHAT NERVE!” Secondly, we live in a city that is a small tourist town and our neighborhood is historic all the way back to the 1700’s. The house we live in is over 100 years old with few updated amenities. That coupled with the fact that it was vacant for 11 years before we moved in, it’s a pretty nice solid house. My husband just got a raise and I’m thinking he makes $16.00 or more an hour. I haven’t worked in almost 11 years, but I’m very sure I can make out a good budget and he would have money left over, or am I hopelessly delusional? We have a shouting match after I typed up and reworded the letter. He said he didn’t want to get fancy. He was threatening the landlord and he works with her. Why risk being put out on the streets because he has no human social skills?! The next argument will be the start of something awful, I plan on telling him that if he gets us evicted I’m done and whatever thoughts he has about me leaving I hope they comfort him because I’m tired of moving, I’m tired of being scared of waking up to no electricity, gas or food. He’s taken us through two evictions, two car repo’s (one because he didn’t like the way the lady at the car company talked to him, so he actually said, “I’m gonna fix them.” Huh? So every week, he pays for a car he does not own. He acts as if he’s never heard of late fees when a bill is doubled and in threat of disconnection. I have sense come to terms that I am married to a sociopathic nut-case. He wants everything in the world he doesn't deserve and if you don't give it to him after his schmoozing he actually will get angry and not talk to you anymore. . .some people have great nerve!

 in response to ekikaseven...   What kind of attorney can I get on disability who's not going to tell me to just go for a no-fault divorce? I only receive $670 a month and I have no idea if I can even get alimony since that is my income. I don't think a judge would grant it to me even seeing evidence of money he would spend on himself.

 in response to ekikaseven...   I want to do more than leave him, I want a divorce with stipulations that he has to pay back money that he used "to keep up his image" as he once put it. He has told lies to his co-workers about me but never told them how he had become addicted to porno, had so much of it it stacked in the closet of our first apartment that it towered over our son at the time. Then he would buy them without me knowing using my checking account. My son is 17 and the only fault I take in him having the mind of an 8 year old is that I didn't put my foot down. In the fourth grade, his teacher told him that over the summer he should read 20 minutes a day. Well, his father said he didn't have to. Now he uses words he hears someone else say but doesn't know the meaning of. He can't conversate with adults because he can't find the words that he should have known when he was 12. My husband has single-handedly ruined two lives and my only fear is that my son is not self sufficient and lazier than the laziest alive because his father choose to do everything for him instead of teaching him how to do it himself. He can't even bathe properly. I fear for my child's future so much I cry. How do I correct that one??

I CANNOT TAKE IT ANYMORE!!! I am better off alone and I just cannot understand why NOBODY but me see's the position I have been in for so long! My stupid husband has been late and behind on the rent for the last 3 months, the landlord never charges us late fees and of course when this happens, he wants to run and just find places to live where I'm inconvenienced. I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis almost ten years ago. He was not here for a few weeks and said that he was going to change. I knew he was lying because his lips were moving. So not only does he return, he returns with outrageous debt IN MY NAME!! At 49 he will not grow up. I left myself months ago because of 14 years of mental abuse and I was so stupid to listen to people telling me I should go back home because he was crying about me leaving. I left because all those years included me working and him taking my entire check. I walked around with no coat and when I was suppose to get coat he buy's himself a coat. Then got mad because a co-worker and friend of mine buys me a coat. I hadn't bought anything for myself while I worked. Things like socks, underwear, coat, gloves, boots. We live in Michigan!!!! However he was always draped in gold, had color coordinated clothes, shoes, hats, the works. I have to wear things my son can fit including boots. There are times (like now) we don't have food to eat! He doesn't do drugs, so that isn't it. I had to stop him from loaning one of his crack head friends money!! Then I had to get it back from him only because hem left his cell phone at a mutual friends house! We loose things because he doesn't want to talk to someone and I will only talk to them once to tell them how he is. It's so addening!!!! I just want to live by myself because I know all of this would not happen and I would not be in this position.  I know politicians are all for the family but this is one of many cases where IT WOULD BE BEST FOR THIS MAN TO LEAVE AND GET OUT OF MY LIFE!!!!

Some of the work I need includes realigning my jaw which which means my jaw will have to be broken. Yep, scared of that happening! Not to mention I cannot afford to loose any weight in a world of dieters, I am not one of them. After the alignment, I think I was told that I should definitely get the braces so that my bite would not cause my jaw to revert back into misalignment. How about just fix my filling and gimme the braces, cut the middle surgery out. . .

 in response to phoenixchief...   El Dente who was a post below me just outright told this exactly "First of all, try brushing your teeth, and maybe you would not have so many problems." I don't know him or anyone else here so I don't even know what is behind the comment that he made. So I blocked him. I thought I would be adding people only to have blocked person someone.

 in response to El Dente...   Excuse me? Are you here to help or make snide, nasty comments to those who need help? What makes you assume that I don't brush my teeth? Because I do brush them. Whether they hurt or not, my teeth get brushed twice a day and flossed through out. As a matter of fact, I have a manual tooth brush and an electric one which I use when multiple sclerosis is not interfering with my grip. Thank you for being just as nasty to me as the dental assistants I've come in contact with.

I would love to go ANYWHERE that will stop the problems I currently have going on with my teeth. Right now, the filling that they put in my mouth has now broken and sticking out from between my teeth! Not only that, the dentist who put the filling in never told me that they were using metal until she was almost done and not only do I object to the metal filling, but so did my neurologist. Back then they it was felt that there was not enough mercury to make a difference and now that has been changed. The dentist made the claim that the metal was stronger than the fillings that had been previously put in and she also made the statement that I would soon have to probably have them replaced. Well, I know either she doesn't know how to put in fillings or she lied about the metal being more durable than what was used by the dentist before her. On top of this problem, I have acquired a new dental problem. I don't know what these teeth are called, but my grandmother called them "eye teeth". I noticed one had chipped away, then I noticed the other one on the other side was doing the same thing. So my dental problems are getting worse and worse. . . Ugh.

I am not use to asking for help, and I have no idea how much you can help with. 10 years ago I was diagnosed with Multiple sclerosis. I cannot tell you all of the needs I have. Glasses, seeing a dentist to remove metal fillings (one broken), and then there are things like rolls of plastic for my windows, I have very cold hands and feet and I would use an electric blanket until it broke, so now I use my heating pad on high which I'm told isn't very safe. I wear sweat shirts, socks and layer on two blankets with the comforter to keep warm. Sadly, this is not something I only do in the winter months. The worst is my washing machine gave out. It started smoking mid cycle one day and I have been toting laundry back fourth for the last two months. It,s extremely hard, but we make do.

Like you said, most of the help is more up north as I live in Ottawa County in lower Michigan where I'm required to go to a clinic in not only the city I live in, but the county as well. The hygienists are not caring or sympathetic, the appointments are so far out in the future it's months before you can be seen and you can only call on certain days for appointments. I really didn't want to go when 3 close friends told me they had went to the same clinic, two went for extractions and they didn't do it right - same problem with both. THEY LEFT PARTS OF THEIR TEETH UNDER THE GUM. The third one wasn't given enough pain medicine and told she had to return and all they did was pack the hole in her gums with clove oil (?). I felt so bad for her because like me, she had to endure weeks of pain. I don't want to go through any of this.